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  • Fill your heart with joy, warmth, & love.
    2013年、新たな展開。なんとフリー、またの名をプーになったってばよ。稼働率はまだ低いけれど、いろんな業界・仕事を経験できて、いろんな人と出会えるのはこれはこれで楽しいかも。
  • Beauty exists in every moment. Miracles come to us so gracefully​.
    奇跡ともいえる出会い、セレンディピティー。 今まであった人、友人、仲間、家族、全てに感謝!そして、これから先、未来の出会いにも感謝!!
  • Let's look at the sunny side of everything.
    希望の光を信じ探し見つめて、光の射す方へ歩いていきたいと思います。
  • 跳ぶんだってばよ!
    2011年、某企業で通翻訳中。あれこれ障害はあれど、相変わらずあきらめが悪いナルト、クールな忍び目指して、食べて祈って修行中。今年は飛躍か、はたまた昼寝か?

Words of Wisdom

  • It's always nice to be given credit for something.
    何かについて感謝されるというのはどんなときでもいいものだ。 別にそれを求めて仕事や家事をしているわけではないけれど、たまに感謝されると、とても嬉しいものです。そうすると、自分も他の人に対して、どんな小さな事でも感謝したくなり、それをまた表現したくなります。
  • 人は退路を断って はじめて輝きを増す
    退路を断つ。いろんな含みがあって、潔い言葉です。でも、そこでくすんでしまうのではなく、ひときわ輝きを増す、というところに惹かれました。
  • It's no time for complacency.
    安心[自己満足]している時ではない。 cautioning against a lax attitude. We should avoid this complacency.
  • motivation と bathing の共通点って、なんだ?
    "People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily." Zig Ziglar
  • Obstacles can't stop you.
    Problems can't stop you. Most of all other people can't stop you. Only you can stop you. Jeffrey Gitomer

  • Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit. Napoleon Hill
  • In times of great stress or adversity,
    it's always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive. Lee Iacocca
  • Four 'L's (quote, unquote):
    "Live well, Learn plenty, Laugh often, Love much."
  • Remember:
    "Whatever happens to you, you have to keep a slightly comic attitude."
  • Message by someone:
    "Goals help focus you on areas in both your personal and professional life that are important and meaningful, rather than being guided by what other people want you to be, do, or accomplish."
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Apr 20, 2008

being parents

卒業式の前後に、ある駐在エンジニアと子育てについて話していて、その方は3人育てて、うち上の二人はもう社会人。思い切って、子育てというか親業で何が大切だと思うか聞いてみた。すると次のような返事がもらえた。経験に裏打ちされているだけあって、私にはとても説得力のある内容に感じたので、皆さんにもご紹介したい。
Hiyoko san,
One thing for sure, being parents is a very difficult task and no one has the right formula or knowledge.

We always have internal conflicts to balance what we would like them to be versus what they really want to be. Of course in certain things they may not know it because they have not lived long enough to know and there is when we can help them to understand or at explain our point of view. Some times is difficult but you have to let them do some of the wrong things in order to allow them to learn from themselves.

You asked the following questions:

What do you think is the most important thing(s) in raising children?
To listen to then an understand who they are and what they want. Then provide the appropriate support that they may need.
Like with the animals in the nature, you protect and teach them when they are little and later help them to become independent as they grow.
Another important thing when they become teenagers is to remember that we were one once and made mistakes, this will help you to be a little bit more tolerant. There will be moments that they will try to challenge both of you and if you make them to decide you will see that they will came back for help.
One of the hard task is to always keep track where they are and what they are or will do.

Do you and your wife have any policy or principle about educating them?
I believe that first husband and wife should be united and in agreement all the time. Remember the husband and wife couple came first and children after (later in life the couple will be alone again). Also is very important to lead them with your examples. Like you mentioned at one time you mentioned that you would like them to help others so you do it first and then have them participate as you do
Teach them the moral principles and to always tell the truth.
I believe that they will project their future based on your relationship with your husband. If they see both of you happy, they will look in life for a similar thing.

One thing for sure is that does not matter how good other families looks, they have their issues somewhere as well. Also in every country the families have their own challenges to overcome.
I believe that the good times that you have with them are always treasured. They always remember how we used to play or do things with them.

I consider the life as an adventure and we have to go for it. Also most of the time we have only one chance in life to be able to do what we want. If they embrace this concept they may look for challenges in life.

Sorry for the long email but I hope it helps somehow.
Regards,

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